What path are you on?
Andy Stanley has a 3 part sermon series on his website www.northpoint.org that revolves around the "Path Principle". The basis of the sermon is Proverbs 7. If you haven't read this passage - I suggest you do. It is a powerful passage.

A wise man looks out his window down on the street below. He sees a younger man walking down the street and farther down the street, he sees a woman waiting on him. The lamb headed for the slaughter. As Andy said, "The young man is walking down the street and sees the seductive woman looking at him, waiting for him. He thinks, 'Man, she digs me'. In his head he is hearing the song "Born to be wild". In the wise man's head watching all this transpire, he is hearing the soundtrack to "Jaws" playing."

The wise man knows what is about to happen. The young man, blind to his lust and ego, just sees the bounty -- he doesn't see the cost or the consequences of what is about to transpire. The woman seduces him and says "my husband is away for a long journey and I have prepared my bed. We can make love all night long and enjoy ourselves." All of this plays to the young man's sense of self - this is all about "me", she wants "me", "I'm" the only one, she'll cheat on her husband just to be with "me".

The lamb is led to the slaughter. Read the passage.

What path are you on? In you get on the interstate intending to head to beach, hoping to go to the beach, dreaming of a beach trip but get on the northbound lane, you will not go to the beach. You are heading in the wrong direction, you've chosen the wrong path. It isn't our hopes, our intentions or our dreams that determine our destination -- it is the path we are on.

This young man was headed down the wrong path. Death and destruction lay in wait for him along this path. The wise man, having seen this over and over shouts "go the other way, avoid her at all cost!" How many men in the office setting have fallen into this trap? "It is just a dinner out of town with _______, it is innocent." Or, "I'll watch this pornography on the hotel TV but I won't get trapped by it."

Andy talks about this in the context of premarital sex. Why is that young folks think they want deep sexual intimacy in marriage and decide to spend their dating years practicing sex so much? They sleep around with everyone they date and then later in life, in their marriage, wonder why they have no desire for sexual intimacy. They got on the wrong path. Their path of intention was to stay pure and have an intimate marriage - that was the intention. But the reality was a path of something else and the destination was a far different outcome than they intended.

How many times have we seen younger men make basic business mistakes - take on too much debt, reach too far, buy too much? We see the train-wreck coming and want to shout, "Stop! you are making a mistake". Sometimes we have to learn lessons the hard way but there is real value in the counsel of wiser men around you. Seek them out. Build a network of wiser men that you can lean on so they can look out for you and make sure you are staying on the right path.

This isn't "accountability", this is a band of brothers that Eldredge talks about. No man needs to go through the tough battles of life alone. No man. Surround yourselves with wise counsel. There is incredible value in a band of brothers.

Soar!